Cheating Never Pays

Okay, so they took Reggie’s trophy.  According to Yahoo Sports the Heisman trust will strip Reggie Bush of his 2005 Heisman award.  The Heisman Trophy is given to the best college football player each year.  In its 75 year history it has never been taken back from a player.  Hmm… I find that interesting.

So am I to believe that Reggie Bush is the only player in 75 years to ever cheat and win the award? Probably not. And did the money that he received give him an un-fair advantage on the playing field?  Probably not.  You have to understand something, I am a huge USC  Trojan football fan. I believe that you can investigate every college sports program and find something that would disqualify them.  I mean everyone does it, everyone in college sports cuts corners or takes a little side money.

Think about this, these students are between the ages of 18-22, with enormous amounts of talent.  From the time they ever started playing sports they’ve been treated differently, they’ve been allotted certain privileges that not everyone gets.  So what do we except them to do.  The colleges are making millions because of these athletes and the athletes in some cases can barely afford to eat on a weekly basis. Now I know that the student gets an education worth thousands of dollars. It’s not like they receive nothing in return for their performance. I get all that.

But the truth is this; “Cheating never pays”.  Just because everyone else is doing it is no reason for us to do it.

You see, the world will always teach to “look out for number one”. But as a follower of Jesus Christ I am taught to;

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.

Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:  Philippians 2:3-5

Our attitudes should be the same as Jesus.  Jesus left perfection to come down and show us how to live.  And knowing how painful it would be he still gave his life for you and for me. Wow. How amazing is that?

I know that everyone doesn’t believe that. But for those of us who do, we can’t allow the world to determine our actions. We have got to stand firm on the Word and the principles of God.

You see what Reggie Bush did was hurt an entire nation of fans, teammates and peers, all because he was looking at himself and not considering others. And sure you can say that he was trying to help his family, but his big payday was coming, his family was going to be alright.

All together it’s a sad day for sports, hopefully we’ve learned;

Cheating never pays!

Ever Thought Of…Video Games and Life?


What if I told you that a silly video game saved my relationship with my son? Would you believe me? Or would your think that I’m really a shallow person?

Well, it’s true.  My oldest son is from a relationship that I had before I met my wife and was married.  He would come over every other weekend and I would try to have things planned to do but nothing was working.  You see I didn’t understand that all he really wanted was my time, not my entertainment.  Often parents from broken relationships think that they have to entertain their kids on “their weekend”.

My son would come over and we really wouldn’t do much together, he was just there and after about a year of this it got old.  I started to notice that all he wanted to do was play video games.  One day we were talking to our cousin and he mentioned this game and suggested that we play. So we went out and rented it…wow! Who would have thought that, that video game would change our lives.

You see we began to play online and we both got pretty good at it (but my son got really good at it…better than me).  We started an online team together and we played with people from all over the world, but the cool thing was, as we played we grew closer.  Our relationship got stronger and stronger.  Unbelievable, this silly game restored our broken relationship.

Today me and my oldest son have a great relationship and we often talk about that game.

You see God will use anything to get us back on the path that He has for us. If you’re experiencing a disconnect with your children, find a common interest, something that both of you really like and do it together. You will be amazed at the outcome.

Just a thought…

Cutters…

Did you know that 1 in 10 American teenagers secretly injure themselves and 80% of those are girls?  Why is this? Why are we living in a nation that has so many problems with our youth? What have we done to promote so much depression and despair?  As a father it is my job to protect my family and to provide them with every opportunity to succeed.  Hey men, dads, have we forgotten this? Have we forgotten our roles as men?  The mans role is to lead, to provide, to protect, to train, and to love their families.  I’m not saying that women can’t do theses things too, I’m just saying that as a man I am responsible for the welfare of my family in every way.

According to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield Missouri:

50% of first marriages end in divorce, 67% of second marriages end in divorce and 73% of third time marriages end in divorce.  There are other polls that show anywhere from 41% to 50% of first time marriages in America, ending in divorce.

WHY IS THIS? How is it that we have allowed society to sell us a big bag of lies, that says “if you don’t like it, get a new one”? Isn’t that what we do, if things are hard or if they don’t end up the way we think they should then we just quit and move on to the next thing.  What ever happened to working through our hard times, persevering?  WAKE UP American parents! Our children need us to make good choices, because they are trying to deal with our mess on their own.

One of the ways that our children deal with pain is to cut themselves. Cutting has been around for many years now, it is a practice that is very popular with youth between the ages of 11 and 26.  Cutting is when a person uses a sharp object to make small cuts in their arms or other body parts. The arms are the most popular area because they can easily cut them and they can easily cover them from view.  The act of cutting is usually accompanied by depression.  People use cutting just like addicts use drugs or alcohol.  It’s a way to release pain and stress.  I see students all the time with covered arms or scarred arms.  You see, these young people are dealing with all of our stuff, they are screaming out for our attention, our love our care. They need their moms and dads affection and assurance. In some cases cutting is an early sign of suicidal tendencies.

Signs of Cutting:

  • Withdrawal from family
  • Isolation
  • Always wearing long sleeves
  • Not allowing you to see their arms
  • Outbursts of anger or rage

Young people aren’t equipped to deal with divorce, and unstable relationships, they aren’t equipped to deal with abusive parents or selfish parents. If our children can’t turn to us for help, who will they turn to? In most cases they turn to other young people or to people who will give them the attention that they desire and need.

Please don’t think that I am saying that unstable parenting is the only cause of cutting. Our children can have the best parents in the world, parents that show them love, attention, affection and provide them with all the things to be successful in life. Parents that have a great relationship and a very strong marriage, and still they can get caught up in cutting. It could be the effect of a relationship at school, or a mental disorder. There are a lot of things that can cause a youth to cut, but we as parents need to recognize the signs.

As parents we are responsible to provide our children with love, attention, discipline that leads to healthy growth and emotional stability. We aren’t always gonna make the right choice because none of us are perfect, but we need to consider our actions before we do them. I’m not saying that you will never go through a divorce, or that you won’t have kids out-of-wedlock, I’m just saying be responsible when making choices that will affect your children, they deserve our best.

Helpful Tips:

  • Ask your child how they are and really listen to their answer
  • Spend time with your children
  • Find a common interest
  • Seek council of a professional that deals with cutting
  • Be open and honest with your children

Personal Note:

I have devoted my life to Jesus Christ and I have found that as I allow Him to lead me, the choices I make get better and better. Hey parents you’re not alone, there are plenty of good resources out there to help you raise your kids. And remember that Jesus loves you and He wants to help you in every area of your life, give Him a chance today.

Resources

Focus on The Family

Parenting.org

Mom Sense