Ever Thought of Fun and Marriage?

Okay so I’ve been noticing that a lot of people have been having marital problems these days. I mean I have close friends that are going through serious serious problems right now. It made me stop and think what’s really going on? I remember when I first started dating my wife we used to have such a blast, we would go out and goof off and laugh and just have fun.

Where’s the joy in life don’t we know how to have fun anymore? As we get older it seems like we get way too serious about life, I mean it’s like we forgot how to enjoy ourselves.  Every time I turn around it seems that someone wants to show me something negative instead of something that is good.  I mean what’s up with that? When was the last time that you and your spouse just laughed like you were kids? I mean a belly aching laugh. I am a firm believer that with joy comes strength. You see I’m sick and tired of watching people that I love give up on their marriages. If we would all just take some time to remember the beginning,  to remember those good times,  I’m sure we can remember why we married that special person.

Life is too short to give up on our spouses and our children. I know that people do all sorts of things like go to counseling and go to therapy to make their marriages work but in order for those things to work we have got to be  100 percent committed to making it work. Are we really committed to making our marriages work? And it takes two to commit not just one, we both have to commit to make it work.

If you are going through marital issues don’t just quit. Try to remember why you feel in love in the first place. It won’t be easy, but marriage isn’t easy it’s hard work and dedication. Seek counsel and be prepared to see it through. Just because the world has accepted divorce as an everyday option to any little marital problem doesn’t mean that we have to. Be willing to fight for your spouse and your children.  Take a moment to reflect on the good times and the joyful moments. Give joy a chance.  Remember,  no one just wakes up and decides to get a divorce, it’s usually thought through for months maybe even years in some cases.  The key is to have a plan that will prevent that day from ever coming. I’ve been married for 15 years and we have had our share of bad times, but one rule we have lived by is to never throw the “D” word around. Our thinking is, if you use the word as a threat to get what you want then eventually you will convince  yourself to do it.  We also don’t go to sleep angry with each other.  Now this one takes some “pride swallowing” but sometimes even if you are right, the best thing to do is learn to forgive and move forward. Now this doesn’t mean to forget it or not work through the problem, it just means to try your best to let your anger cool before sleeping. In this way you are working against resentment and grudges. I know it’s not easy, but it is worth it.

Try to enjoy your marriage. I know for some, these things just don’t work because it really takes two to make one.  But as long as it is in your power, do your best to make it work.

Find the joy that you both once shared.

Think about it…

Ever Thought Of…Weakness and Strength?

Do you know anyone who always has a bad attitude?  Or someone who always has something negative to say?  No matter what’s going on they just aren’t happy.  I know some people like that and no matter what, the conversation always turns south.

Or how about someone who is always tired or weak.  I mean they aren’t sick or anything they just always seem to be overwhelmed with life.

I was wondering about that and suddenly it came to me, there’s this verse that  says;

The joy of the Lord is your strength.       Nehemiah 8:10

Wow!!  How sweet is that?

Have you ever thought about that?  When you are pressed into God and you begin to delight yourself in him, then you begin to experience his joy!  I know for myself, when I’m not focused on God and my focus is on all my stuff, I feel worn out.  I mean literally tired, without energy or strength.  But when my focus is on Jesus, I have a pep in my step, a real strength, I notice that I’m happier and full of life, full of joy.  Wow imagine that!

You see the strength that you need to get through this life comes directly from the joy of the Lord.  Next time you feel sluggish or weak ask yourself this question;

Have I spent time with God lately?  And if the answer is no, then you may want to press into him, because he is faithful to release the joy that gives you strength to thrive in life.

Enjoy life, it’s too short to not to.

Think about it…

Ever Thought Of…Video Games and Life?

What if I told you that a silly video game saved my relationship with my son? Would you believe me? Or would your think that I’m really a shallow person?

Well, it’s true.  My oldest son is from a relationship that I had before I met my wife and was married.  He would come over every other weekend and I would try to have things planned to do but nothing was working.  You see I didn’t understand that all he really wanted was my time, not my entertainment.  Often parents from broken relationships think that they have to entertain their kids on “their weekend”.

My son would come over and we really wouldn’t do much together, he was just there and after about a year of this it got old.  I started to notice that all he wanted to do was play video games.  One day we were talking to our cousin and he mentioned this game and suggested that we play. So we went out and rented it…wow! Who would have thought that, that video game would change our lives.

You see we began to play online and we both got pretty good at it (but my son got really good at it…better than me).  We started an online team together and we played with people from all over the world, but the cool thing was, as we played we grew closer.  Our relationship got stronger and stronger.  Unbelievable, this silly game restored our broken relationship.

Today me and my oldest son have a great relationship and we often talk about that game.

You see God will use anything to get us back on the path that He has for us. If you’re experiencing a disconnect with your children, find a common interest, something that both of you really like and do it together. You will be amazed at the outcome.

Just a thought…