Ever Thought of Fun and Marriage?

Okay so I’ve been noticing that a lot of people have been having marital problems these days. I mean I have close friends that are going through serious serious problems right now. It made me stop and think what’s really going on? I remember when I first started dating my wife we used to have such a blast, we would go out and goof off and laugh and just have fun.

Where’s the joy in life don’t we know how to have fun anymore? As we get older it seems like we get way too serious about life, I mean it’s like we forgot how to enjoy ourselves.  Every time I turn around it seems that someone wants to show me something negative instead of something that is good.  I mean what’s up with that? When was the last time that you and your spouse just laughed like you were kids? I mean a belly aching laugh. I am a firm believer that with joy comes strength. You see I’m sick and tired of watching people that I love give up on their marriages. If we would all just take some time to remember the beginning,  to remember those good times,  I’m sure we can remember why we married that special person.

Life is too short to give up on our spouses and our children. I know that people do all sorts of things like go to counseling and go to therapy to make their marriages work but in order for those things to work we have got to be  100 percent committed to making it work. Are we really committed to making our marriages work? And it takes two to commit not just one, we both have to commit to make it work.

If you are going through marital issues don’t just quit. Try to remember why you feel in love in the first place. It won’t be easy, but marriage isn’t easy it’s hard work and dedication. Seek counsel and be prepared to see it through. Just because the world has accepted divorce as an everyday option to any little marital problem doesn’t mean that we have to. Be willing to fight for your spouse and your children.  Take a moment to reflect on the good times and the joyful moments. Give joy a chance.  Remember,  no one just wakes up and decides to get a divorce, it’s usually thought through for months maybe even years in some cases.  The key is to have a plan that will prevent that day from ever coming. I’ve been married for 15 years and we have had our share of bad times, but one rule we have lived by is to never throw the “D” word around. Our thinking is, if you use the word as a threat to get what you want then eventually you will convince  yourself to do it.  We also don’t go to sleep angry with each other.  Now this one takes some “pride swallowing” but sometimes even if you are right, the best thing to do is learn to forgive and move forward. Now this doesn’t mean to forget it or not work through the problem, it just means to try your best to let your anger cool before sleeping. In this way you are working against resentment and grudges. I know it’s not easy, but it is worth it.

Try to enjoy your marriage. I know for some, these things just don’t work because it really takes two to make one.  But as long as it is in your power, do your best to make it work.

Find the joy that you both once shared.

Think about it…

Ever Thought Of…Love

If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing. 1Corinthians 13-1-3

Okay…so without love in our heart we are nothing.  You see God is love and when we accept him we receive his love.

Remember your first love?  Remember that feeling you had? The excitement, the joy.  What if I told you that you can get those feelings back with just a few minor adjustments to your thinking and attitude.

How often do we put the focus on ourselves? Probably more than we should, right?  Well Jesus was all about others, his thinking was always directed at people. He just loved them.

Here’s the point, everyone we know will fail us, everyone we know will do something to upset us, I mean… we know that this is true. So if we know that no one is perfect…including us, then we should be able to see the good in people and not only the bad.

Every time that you start to get angry and lash out at someone, stop and think about how you feel when you fail some one.  Stop and think about how God treats you when you fail him. If we really try to treat others the way we would like to be treated, then we give “Love” a place to grow in our hearts.

Remember without love we have nothing.  Tell 10 people that you love them today and watch your heart begin to change.

Think about it…

Ever Thought Of…BINGO and Life!

I remember when I was coaching football, we would have to work fundraisers for the league.  Every Saturday night we would rotate working down at the bingo hall.  I remember that I really didn’t like going there because the room was filled with smoke and I could barely breathe.

It was real funny to watch how intense the people got towards the end of the game.  The anticipation was crazy…and all of a sudden you would hear “BINGO!”  There would be a big sigh that traveled through the room, a few moments of chatter and boom…the next game would start.

Have you ever thought of Bingo and Life?  I mean in some ways they are very similar. In bingo your given a card filled with numbers and you are given a dabber to cover the numbers when you hear them called.  The key is to listen to the caller so you won’t miss your number.  Once you have completed a row ‘BINGO” the game is over.  But your not the only one with a card, the whole room is filled with people that have cards too. No two cards are the same but everyone is hoping to win.  If someone gets bingo before you, they win the prize and the process starts all over again.

You can go to bingo every night for years and never win, but someday when you least expect it “BINGO!” you win.

This reminds me of something that I read;

You made my life short, so brief that the time means nothing to you.    “Human life is but a breath, Psalm 39:5

We disappear like a breath; we last no longer than a faint shadow.

Psalm 144:4

You see, like the Bingo game we don’t know when our number is going to be called, the game can end at anytime.  You can be sitting with someone and in an instant “BINGO” game over, there number is called. One minute they’re playing the game just like you and the next moment they are going up to receive their due.

In life we are given a plan (like the bingo card) and in that plan there’s a journey filled with instructions from the caller (God).  Like in bingo we must hear the instructions of the caller so we can have an opportunity to complete the card. God gives us work to do while we are here on earth and we must hear his instructions so we can know what to do.  And we never know when God will call us to receive our due.

You see at some point the games over and hopefully by that time we can say;

I have brought glory to you here on earth by doing everything you gave me to do. John 17:4

Every day we live gives us less time to live… so what are we going to do with it?

Just a thought…

Ever Thought Of…Telling Someone?

Have you ever read something or heard something that got you real excited?  Or something that you just couldn’t wait to go tell someone about? Have you ever tasted something that was so good that you had to call a friend and let them know about it? Learning something new is so cool. Or experiencing something  for the first time always seems to bring excitement.

It reminds me of my youngest son who is four years old.  He is in his first year in school, kindergarten.  He comes home everyday so excited because he has learned something new.  He can’t wait to share it with us.

What if I told you that you could learn something new everyday of your life and you would be so excited about it that you would have to tell someone.  It’s true, we have the capacity to never stop learning. Human beings are built with an endless ability to learn. Now that’s all good, but what are we learning? Are we investing our time in things that make us want to shout it from the roof tops?  Or are we learning things that are only useful to us?

I remember when I first learned that Jesus called himself God. For me that was awesome, I couldn’t wait to tell someone.

I tell you the truth,” Jesus answered, “before Abraham was born, I am!” At this, they picked up stones to stone him, but Jesus hid himself, slipping away from the temple grounds.  John 8:58-59

Isn’t that exciting?! You see you have to understand some of the background of the story. Why did I get so excited about that?

Well, I had a cousin that didn’t believe that Jesus and God were one.  I was new in my faith and I would study for hours.  One day my cousin called and we began to discuss the bible and she said that Jesus never claimed to be God.  It was one of those “okay God I’m counting on you” moments.  I remember turning to John and reading that verse, it was like God himself explained it to me…actually it was God himself, the Holy Spirit. I read it to her and she said I was misinterpreting it. So my response was, I guess the pharisees misinterpreted Jesus too because they tried to stone him.

You see the bible is alive, it is like living water and it brings life, hope and excitement, to those who read it. If we spend time with God everyday and we are willing to learn, then God is willing to teach.  In this lifetime we could never learn everything, so let’s just learn the stuff that God wants to teach us.

If we do that, we will always be growing closer to him and we will become more like him.

Now isn’t that something to be excited about? Read the bible and tell the world. It’s that simple.

Just a thought…

Ever Thought Of…Weakness and Strength?

Do you know anyone who always has a bad attitude?  Or someone who always has something negative to say?  No matter what’s going on they just aren’t happy.  I know some people like that and no matter what, the conversation always turns south.

Or how about someone who is always tired or weak.  I mean they aren’t sick or anything they just always seem to be overwhelmed with life.

I was wondering about that and suddenly it came to me, there’s this verse that  says;

The joy of the Lord is your strength.       Nehemiah 8:10

Wow!!  How sweet is that?

Have you ever thought about that?  When you are pressed into God and you begin to delight yourself in him, then you begin to experience his joy!  I know for myself, when I’m not focused on God and my focus is on all my stuff, I feel worn out.  I mean literally tired, without energy or strength.  But when my focus is on Jesus, I have a pep in my step, a real strength, I notice that I’m happier and full of life, full of joy.  Wow imagine that!

You see the strength that you need to get through this life comes directly from the joy of the Lord.  Next time you feel sluggish or weak ask yourself this question;

Have I spent time with God lately?  And if the answer is no, then you may want to press into him, because he is faithful to release the joy that gives you strength to thrive in life.

Enjoy life, it’s too short to not to.

Think about it…

Ever Thought Of…Video Games and Life?

What if I told you that a silly video game saved my relationship with my son? Would you believe me? Or would your think that I’m really a shallow person?

Well, it’s true.  My oldest son is from a relationship that I had before I met my wife and was married.  He would come over every other weekend and I would try to have things planned to do but nothing was working.  You see I didn’t understand that all he really wanted was my time, not my entertainment.  Often parents from broken relationships think that they have to entertain their kids on “their weekend”.

My son would come over and we really wouldn’t do much together, he was just there and after about a year of this it got old.  I started to notice that all he wanted to do was play video games.  One day we were talking to our cousin and he mentioned this game and suggested that we play. So we went out and rented it…wow! Who would have thought that, that video game would change our lives.

You see we began to play online and we both got pretty good at it (but my son got really good at it…better than me).  We started an online team together and we played with people from all over the world, but the cool thing was, as we played we grew closer.  Our relationship got stronger and stronger.  Unbelievable, this silly game restored our broken relationship.

Today me and my oldest son have a great relationship and we often talk about that game.

You see God will use anything to get us back on the path that He has for us. If you’re experiencing a disconnect with your children, find a common interest, something that both of you really like and do it together. You will be amazed at the outcome.

Just a thought…

Ever Thought Of… Good Things During Bad Times?

How often do we focus on only the bad stuff and in doing so we miss the good stuff?

Imagine if you were in the most beautiful place you could think of. I mean the greatest place ever. A place that was completely free from anything that was bad.

Would you ever want to leave that place? Or would you stay there forever?
Well Jesus was in that place and he chose to leave it and come to the worst place he could imagine a place of filth and greed, a place of sickness and sorrow, a place of death. Jesus saw the good in the mist of all the bad. He knew that if he came down we would one day be able to go to that perfect place with him.

Jesus wasn’t looking at himself he was looking at us.
Remember when your going through those tough times look for the good in the bad. And always remember that Jesus is with you.

Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Just A Thought…